Maybe it's because I've been called Megan more times than I care to remember, or that lots of people don't say my name correctly. I would never change my name, nor its spelling, but I have heard lots and lots of Margitts, Margotts, and Margretts. Is it that I think because they don't say my name right, they won't remember me?
This oddness exhibits itself in a handful of ways. One is at church. I'm continually amazed when people know my name. Or when they remember something I've done or said in Relief Society.
Another way is on Facebook. I'm one of those that only befriends people I've known in real life. So, in theory, I should feel comfortable commenting on or liking anything anyone on my list says, right? But I don't. I start to type in a comment, then I stop myself. I think, "Wait, has someone already said this? Am I being redundant? Do I comment on what they say often enough for this to even make sense? Have I established a strong enough feeling of familiarity between us for it not to be weird that I'm commenting?" Lately I've deleted most of my comments before I hit the share button.
Am I going through an identity crisis?
A few weeks ago I was feeding Phoebe and reading stuff on the computer when one of my Facebook friends opened a chat window with me. This is a girl that I had a class with at BYU, and I went to high school with her husband, but we don't really have a Facebook-chat kind of friendship, so I was a little surprised. She asked me if I could sew. Not really, was my reply. Turns out she was starting a long-distance quilting bee and she thought it would be great if I joined. I said I really wasn't a great seamstress, but she could send me the information in an email and I would make an informed decision.
I was flattered to have been invited (it's always nice to feel included), but I was a little perplexed. Why me?
I got the email a few minutes later. The moment I opened it and saw the first word, my phobia was realized. She had addressed it to my middle name. Now, I use my middle name on my Facebook page and my middle initial is part of my signature, but I have never ever gone by my middle name. Did she not remember who I was? Why on earth had she accepted my friend request? I think I just happened to be online when she was online and she was short participants.
Maybe it's not an irrational fear after all.
P.S. I'm not doing the quilting bee. Those examples she sent me (or that she sent my middle-named alter ego) were way beyond my skill level. You know, in case you were wondering.
