Each evening, after we've read scriptures as a family, prayed, and gotten everyone pajama-ed, we get the girls to sleep. They say their prayers, we sing to them, sometimes a story is told, then Bryan plops down next to Phoebe and I lie on the floor next to Sophie's bed, ready to hold her hand.
Tonight, after staying with this arrangement for the duration of a few classical pieces of music that Bryan was streaming off his phone, he got up to begin the bedtime routine with Cooper. I announced that I would hold Sophie's hand for one more song, then I would go cuddle Phoebe for a few minutes.
Not wanting to let me go, Sophie tightened her grip on my hand. She stayed that way until I announced that the song was almost over. Then she smiled down at me from her toddler bed and said, "Okay, I will let you go. I won't hold on so tight." And she loosened her hand, still holding on, but in a more relaxed way.
I looked at her as she closed her eyes, the memory of the smile still sitting on her lips, and I heard her words again in my mind.
"Okay, I will let you go. I won't hold on so tight."
Unexpected sadness settled down on me. Oh, I thought, she will let go someday, I'm not ready! Keep holding on!
But someday, she will need to make her own choices, be an independent adult. How will it happen? Will it be a gradual release, dropping one finger at a time as she steps toward adulthood? Or will it be in one great rush? Will I watch as she bolts into her future?
She's only three, she's still far away from that. And yet I understand that the time will speed by and as I work to catch up, she, and her siblings, will be grown.
I will hold on as long as they need me. Then I will wait, for I know from my own experience that sometimes, even as a grownup, I need to reach for my Mom's hand. And just as she is there, ready when I need her, I plan to be here, ready to hold on tight.