Friday, January 29, 2021

A Man in a Suit

Topher inherited a onesie swimsuit and has worn it for water play exactly once. It is now definitely too small. I've been meaning to go through his drawers and pull out the items he's outgrown, I just haven't gotten around to it yet. That means that he asks every few weeks to wear the swimsuit. I redirect him to wear something else and we carry on with the day.

Except for yesterday.

Yesterday I told him to pick something out, then I walked into the bathroom to throw something away. When I came out, not only had he picked the swimsuit out, he had also started putting it on. Well, okay. I helped him put it all the way on, and added pants since it's a little too cold for short shorts. He wore the hood up throughout the day and ran around being a superhero.

The best part? He can't remember that it's called a swimsuit. Instead he says, "I want to wear my suitcase."

Thursday, January 28, 2021

The Memory Keeper

This picture represents a significant number of hours of my time. After nearly thirteen years of writing the blog and a few years of printing it, the printed hard copies are totally up-to-date. The 2020 books arrived last week. I love that these are here and easily accessible to the kids. They love pulling them out and rediscovering all the adventures and funny quotes chronicled therein.


Now when people ask why I stay up so late I can tell them it's because I'm busy filling a bookshelf.


Wednesday, January 27, 2021

In Hot Water

Yesterday's big adventure began when Phoebe turned from her desk in the basement to the adjacent exercise area to attend her PE class. That's when she saw water on the basement floor. The water happened to be surrounding the water heater. She alerted Bryan and he reached out to the landlord. 


I learned about it when I finished putting Topher down for a nap. The repair technician would arrive between 3 and 5, except that they finished a previous call early and we had about fifteen minutes notice to grab lunches and laptops and school supplies and head to the top floor, away from people not inside our bubble.

Guess who got a new water heater today?

I was surprised that they took care of it right away. A second technician was called to help and, all things considered, the job was done relatively quickly. The kids and I hung out upstairs for about five hours while Bryan continued to work in the basement and supervise. And good news, unlike the AC repairman in the summer, these guys kept their masks on the whole time. When they left, busted water heater in tow, Bryan sanitized and we emerged from our seclusion.

Hot water is a luxury I'm quite thankful for.

Tuesday, January 26, 2021

It Depends

 Sometimes you want to run around and be loud with your siblings.

Sometimes you want to sit quietly with your doll and play a board game.

It depends on the day.


Monday, January 25, 2021

Photo Ready

 "Topher, you look so handsome in your church clothes. Can I take a picture of you before we put your jammies back on?"



Friday, January 22, 2021

Workout Buddies

 Topher has really been enjoying first grade PE.


Thursday, January 21, 2021

Maths

Because we watched the inauguration yesterday, the school day was pushed back a bit. It ended up being a do-your-math-at-the-table-while-Mom-makes-dinner-kind-of day.



Wednesday, January 20, 2021

Brave Enough

This morning I halted school and turned on the inauguration, as I've done in the past. It was beautiful. I was delighted by Lady Gaga's tasteful and lovely rendition of The Star-Spangled Banner. I loved the choice made by several of the women in attendance to wear purple, a nod to red and blue coming together. I deeply appreciated calls for kindness. I loved the talk of scripture and God, particularly the mention of James 1:5 in the invocation. I adored that The Pledge of Allegiance was presented in English and American Sign Language, both by the same person.

One of the most poignant parts of the day was the performance of The Hill We Climb, an original poem written by poet laureate Amanda Gorman for the inauguration. It was not only beautifully composed, but movingly performed. I read a bit about it tonight. She was about halfway done writing it two weeks ago, then the capitol riot took place. She stayed up late that same night and finished it.

As I thought about what I could write tonight to remember the events of today, her poem came to mind. So many lines resonated with me, but the last two are my favorite.

When day comes, we ask ourselves, where can we find light in this never-ending shade?

The loss we carry. A sea we must wade.

We braved the belly of the beast.

We’ve learned that quiet isn’t always peace, and the norms and notions of what “just” is isn’t always justice.

And yet the dawn is ours before we knew it.

Somehow we do it.

Somehow we weathered and witnessed a nation that isn’t broken, but simply unfinished.

We, the successors of a country and a time where a skinny Black girl descended from slaves and raised by a single mother can dream of becoming president, only to find herself reciting for one.

And, yes, we are far from polished, far from pristine, but that doesn’t mean we are striving to form a union that is perfect.

We are striving to forge our union with purpose.

To compose a country committed to all cultures, colors, characters and conditions of man.

And so we lift our gaze, not to what stands between us, but what stands before us.

We close the divide because we know to put our future first, we must first put our differences aside.

We lay down our arms so we can reach out our arms to one another.

We seek harm to none and harmony for all.

Let the globe, if nothing else, say this is true.

That even as we grieved, we grew.

That even as we hurt, we hoped.

That even as we tired, we tried.

That we’ll forever be tied together, victorious.

Not because we will never again know defeat, but because we will never again sow division.

Scripture tells us to envision that everyone shall sit under their own vine and fig tree, and no one shall make them afraid.

If we’re to live up to our own time, then victory won’t lie in the blade, but in all the bridges we’ve made.

That is the promise to glade, the hill we climb, if only we dare.

It’s because being American is more than a pride we inherit.

It’s the past we step into and how we repair it.

We’ve seen a force that would shatter our nation, rather than share it.

Would destroy our country if it meant delaying democracy.

And this effort very nearly succeeded.

But while democracy can be periodically delayed, it can never be permanently defeated.

In this truth, in this faith we trust, for while we have our eyes on the future, history has its eyes on us.

This is the era of just redemption.

We feared at its inception.

We did not feel prepared to be the heirs of such a terrifying hour.

But within it we found the power to author a new chapter, to offer hope and laughter to ourselves.

So, while once we asked, how could we possibly prevail over catastrophe, now we assert, how could catastrophe possibly prevail over us?

We will not march back to what was, but move to what shall be: a country that is bruised but whole, benevolent but bold, fierce and free.

We will not be turned around or interrupted by intimidation because we know our inaction and inertia will be the inheritance of the next generation, become the future.

Our blunders become their burdens.

But one thing is certain.

If we merge mercy with might, and might with right, then love becomes our legacy and change our children’s birthright.

So let us leave behind a country better than the one we were left.

Every breath from my bronze-pounded chest, we will raise this wounded world into a wondrous one.

We will rise from the golden hills of the West.

We will rise from the windswept Northeast where our forefathers first realized revolution.

We will rise from the lake-rimmed cities of the Midwestern states.

We will rise from the sun-baked South.

We will rebuild, reconcile, and recover.

And every known nook of our nation and every corner called our country, our people diverse and beautiful, will emerge battered and beautiful.

When day comes, we step out of the shade of flame and unafraid.

The new dawn balloons as we free it.

For there is always light, if only we’re brave enough to see it.

If only we’re brave enough to be it.

Tuesday, January 19, 2021

Soup's On!

Topher likes to come running into the kitchen while I'm preparing dinner (usually with whichever big kid is supposed to be watching him trailing closely behind) and ask, "Mom, what are you making?"

Last night his question was slightly different, "Mom, are you making bread?"

"No," I glanced at the finished bread on the counter from the day before. "I'm making soup."

"Soup..." he responded, searching for the right word. "Soup... is gross!"

And then he liked it so much that he ditched the spoon and used his bread to get the soup to his mouth faster. A bath soon followed.



Monday, January 18, 2021

Love Your Neighbor

Tonight for Family Home Evening, as a way to celebrate Martin Luther King, Jr day, we read I am Martin Luther King, Jr and discussed how relevant Dr. King's message and work are today. I told them that our country is not as safe as it should be for people of color, even so many years after the Civil Rights movement. The kids asked good, hard questions. I cried multiple times as I tried to get through the book, because the message is so close to my heart.


I concluded the lesson by asking them what Jesus taught about how we should treat our neighbors.

"Love them," they said.

"And who is your neighbor?"

"Everyone."

Friday, January 15, 2021

Airing Our Clean Laundry

When we got our couch a year and a half ago we relocated the futon into the playroom with the intention of moving it down to the basement. Then we discovered that it's really nice to have somewhere to sit while in the playroom, so the futon is still there. And, because it's a short walk from the playroom to the laundry room, the futon has become the default dumping ground for clean piles of laundry. The piles generally don't stay there for long, but there are some weeks when the couch has more clothes days than not. And now that no one comes over to our house anymore, we don't have the added incentive of company seeing the inside of our home to clear the space quickly.

Recently I've had the goal of finishing the laundry so that the futon is clear on Sunday for church. We don't use the futon for church, but it is in the sightlines of the room where we gather. That means Thursday is now my day to wash everything so we have a little time to put it away. That involves sorting the laundry into piles and then having the kids (except for Topher) deal with their own pile, then I usually fold what remains.

After a day of running the washer and dryer, I was determined to sort everything last night after Topher went to sleep. He's a busy little guy and loves to help by indiscriminately adding clothes to whichever pile he chooses, so it's a job best done while he's not around. However, my energy has been running low the last few days and my brain has been a bit foggy, so I totally spaced on the sorting until I was on my way to bed. At that point it was so late that I decided I would just do it today instead.

With that exposition in place, you will understand my surprise when I came downstairs this morning and found the laundry divided into piles on the floor, and a large chunk of the clothes missing completely. I quickly discovered that our early riser Sophie had gotten up and sorted the clothes almost totally by herself. Peter helped a little after seminary when she wasn't sure where a few of the items belonged, but otherwise she did it. Then she and Peter carried their own piles, plus Cooper's and Phoebe's piles upstairs to their rooms, which is why there were fewer piles than expected.

I was genuinely surprised and thankful and told her so while I hugged her. Then I continued to thank her again throughout the day.

She had a really good day today, no meltdowns or tantrums or anything of that nature. When I asked her at bedtime why today had been so good she told me she thought it was because one kind deeds leads to another, and since she had started the day by doing something nice, it made the whole day better.

She is a wise girl.

Wednesday, January 13, 2021

Like a Bear

I've joked for years that I would love to hibernate through January because the cold is so painful. I would definitely not call what I'm doing right now hibernating since that generally involves sleeping. However, I do get to spend January inside my house, only going outside if I choose to and not because I have to.

Today marks ten months since we started our at-home-all-the-time adventure, and it doesn't appear to be ending any time soon. But that's okay, because staying inside gets me through this cold month a little easier than usual.

And that, my friends, is a silver lining.

Monday, January 11, 2021

Advanced

Yesterday, in our living room, Bryan ordained Peter a priest in the Aaronic priesthood. Our Bishop and some family members were able to join over Zoom. This was such a blessing and, as my Grandma put it, a lot easier than having them travel to witness this special event. Next Sunday when we have the sacrament at home, Peter will be able to bless it. That is very exciting.



Friday, January 8, 2021

Thursday, January 7, 2021

Make New Friends

Topher got a big bag of Play-Doh for Christmas full of lots of tiny, party-favor sized containers. He's enjoyed having some creative play each day this week.

He's not the only one.



Wednesday, January 6, 2021

Chaos

Today is hard. 

Not with the kids, it was a pretty good day for them. 

It's hard for our nation. 

I've felt for a long time like parts of the system were broken, and tonight I am feeling that sadness deep in my soul. Bryan and I followed what happened in Washington D.C. today closely. We talked with the kids about it during dinner. We talked about political parties and domestic terrorism and what a peaceful transition of power should look like. After the kids went to bed Bryan and I read reactions from people we know and love of both extremes posted on Facebook.

And my heart hurts.

Tuesday, January 5, 2021

Monday, January 4, 2021

The Biblio Files: 2020

It's that magical time of year when I post all the books that I read during the last fifty-two weeks. The theme for our two-person book club was Classics I Should Have Read But Haven't and included Jane Eyre and The Adventures of Tom Sawyer. Occasionally we would pick a book that one of us had read but the other hadn't, so not all of them were new, but it was good to revisit. And a big change from last year: I actually read books with my eyes and not just my ears! Starting in October I began using my Kindle Paperwhite a lot more and I really enjoyed having a mixture of audiobooks and print books.

The book club picks (for both book clubs) are italicized, the excellent reads that stuck with me and were profound are underlined, and the books that I read on my Kindle are starred. This list only contains the books I finished, there were several I started and returned to the library without completing. They don't get a place of honor on the list.

January:
  1. How to Raise an Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims
  2. A Place to Belong edited by Hollie Rhees Fluhman and Camille Fronk Olsen
  3. The Sun Also Rises by Ernest Hemingway
  4. Shoe Dog by Phil Knight
  5. The More of Less by Joshua Becker
  6. The Old Man and the Sea by Ernest Hemingway
  7. The Outsiders by S.E. Hinton
  8. Spin by Neil Fishman and Harvey Edelman
  9. Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis
February:
  1. Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? by Mindy Kaling
  2. The Year of Less by Cait Flanders
  3. Sunny by Jason Reynolds
  4. Patina by Jason Reynolds
  5. Golden Answers by John Bytheway
  6. How to Win Friends and Influence People in the Digital Age by Dale Carnegie and Brent Cole
  7. Hidden Figures by Margot Lee Shetterly
March:
  1. Saints Volume 1
  2. Hello, Universe by Erin Entrada Kelly
  3. Saints Volume 2
  4. I Saw the Lord: Joseph's First Vision Combined from Nine Accounts by Kerry Muhlestein
  5. The Book of Mormon is the Word of God by Ezra Taft Benson
April:
  1. Doctrine and Covenants
  2. Book of Mormon
  3. Funny, You Don't Look Autistic by Michael McCreary
  4. Food by Jim Gaffigan
  5. Lu by Jason Reynolds
  6. Because of the Christ on Calvary by Brad Wilcox
  7. Grace Where You Are by Emily Belle Freeman
  8. Peter Pan by J. M. Barrie
  9. The Mysterious Benedict Society by Trenton Lee Stewart
  10. Dad Is Fat by Jim Gaffigan
  11. Middlemarch by George Elliot
May:
  1. The Enchantress Returns by Christ Colfer
  2. Alice in Wonderland by Lewis Carroll
  3. Through the Looking Glass by Lewis Carroll
  4. Robinson Crusoe by Daniel Defoe
  5. Lots of Candles, Plenty of Cake by Anna Quindlen
  6. Fortunately, the Milk by Neil Gaiman
  7. Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg
  8. No Time Like Now by Troy Dunn

June:
  1. Where'd You Go, Bernadette by Maria Semple
  2. Hillbilly Elegy by J.D. Vance
  3. Argo by Tony Mendez and Matt Baglio
  4. Around the World in 80 Days by Jules Verne
  5. The Alchemyst by Michael Scott
  6. The Wonderful Wizard of Oz by L. Frank Baum
  7. Stargirl by Jerry Spinelli
  8. The Three Musketeers (abridged) by Alexander Dumas
  9. So You Want to Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo
  10. Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone by J.K. Rowling
July:
  1. Austenland by Shannon Hale
  2. They Can't Kill Us All by Wesley Lowery
  3. Just Mercy by Bryan Stevenson
  4. Even This by Emily Belle Freeman
  5. Kindred by Octavia E. Butler
  6. Prince Caspian by C.S. Lewis
  7. The Horse and His Boy by C.S. Lewis
  8. The Voyage of the Dawn Treader by C.S. Lewis
August:
  1. How To Be An Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi
  2. Spirit by David Butler
  3. Look Both Ways by Jason Reynolds
  4. Becoming Mrs. Lewis by Patti Callahan
  5. Without the Mask by Charlie Bird
  6. The Condemnation of Blackness Khalil Gibran Muhammad
  7. Me and White Supremacy by Layla Saad
September:
  1. Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte
  2. The Book Woman of Troublesome Creek by Kim Michele Richardson
  3. Animal Farm by George Orwell
  4. 1984 by George Orwell
  5. The Power of Stillness by Jacob Z. Hess, Carrie Skarda, Kyle Anderson, Ty Mansfield
  6. Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets by J.K. Rowling
October:
  1. White Fragility by Robin DiAngelo
  2. To All the Boys I've Loved Before by Jenny Han
  3. P.S. I Still Love You by Jenny Han*
  4. The Adventures of Tom Sawyer by Mark Twain
  5. Harry Potter and Prisoner of Azkaban by J.K. Rowling
  6. Brown Girl Dreaming by Jacqueline Woodson
  7. Dragonflight by Anne McCaffrey
  8. Always and Forever, Lara Jean by Jenny Han*
  9. A Gentleman in Moscow by Amor Towles
  10. Healing from Hidden Abuse by Shannon Thomas
November:
  1. Tuesdays at the Castle by Jessica Day George*
  2. Fathers of the Prophets by Susan Arrington Madsen, Rebecca Madsen Thornton, and Emily Madsen Jones
  3. Princess of the Midnight Ball by Jessica Day George*
  4. Princess of Glass by Jessica Day George*
  5. Covenant Motherhood by Stephanie Dibb Sorensen
  6. Seabiscuit by Laura Hillenbrand
  7. Princess of the Silver Woods by Jessica Day George*
  8. Born This Happy Morning by John Bytheway
  9. Wednesdays in the Tower by Jessica Day George*
  10. A Return to Christmas by Chris Heimerdinger
December:
  1. Bleak House by Charles Dickens
  2. Dying of Whiteness by Jonathan Metzl
  3. Stamped From the Beginning by Ibram X. Kendi
  4. Mr. Penumbra's 24-Hour Bookstore by Robin Sloan
  5. The Mansion by Henry Van Dyke
  6. The Book of Mormon
  7. The Importance of Being Earnest by Oscar Wilde
  8. Rising Strong by Brene Bown
  9. October 2020 General Conference
  10. The Self-Driven Child by William Stixrud and Ned Johnson

Friday, January 1, 2021

Hello, 2021

For the first time ever, we let Sophie stay up until midnight for New Year's Eve. We even let Topher stay up until 9, two hours past his 7 o'clock bedtime. That means we had a bunch of very tired people at our house today and everyone was tucked in early tonight.

To say goodbye to 2020 we ate finger foods


and tamales.

Bryan found these cute cookies that the kids had fun painting before eating. I think this activity filled our gingerbread house quota for this holiday season.






And we ended the night watching the new Pixar movie Soul. It's wonderful and so beautifully done. It prompted many discussions last night and today about big existential questions which Bryan tied back into the scriptures. I don't want to spoil the movie, so I won't say more than that.

We watched the ball drop into a sparsely populated Times Square and chased the kids to bed.

We're really glad it's 2021.